sad african woman
Hi all,
I got this touching letter from Juliana, so sad that friends can’t count on friends anymore.
Read on;
Dear Nkechi,
How are you and your family? I am writing you this letter because I think and believe that you and Nollywoodgossip readers can help me. I am in desperate need of advice right now before I go insane. In fact, as I’m writing this letter, I’m still in the hospital.
My name is Juliana. I’m a graduate and I work with one of the new generation banks. I met Austin while in the university. Then, I was in 200 level while Austin was in his final year. It was love at first sight and we instantly became inseparable. We were the couple everyone in the campus admired, and I was so happy. Austin later went for his youth service and was lucky to be retained by the company where he served.
Two years later, Austin proposed to me and soon after, our wedding arrangements began. On several occasions, I visited Austin with my best friend, whom I have chosen to be my chief bridesmaid. Three weeks to our wedding, Austin started acting funny. I tried everything I could to make him feel relaxed and happy, but his acts got funnier. It got to a point that I had to ask him if his love for me was gone, but he assured me that everything was ok.
One day, I called to inform him that I’ll be spending the weekend with him, and he told me that he would not be around and that he had some official assignments to take care of, but while on the phone, I sensed some panic in his voice and that aroused my suspicion.
I thought to myself that if we’re going to get married in a few weeks, we needed to talk and sort out any problems we may be having. So I decided to go and pay him a visit so we can sit and talk like a loving couple, but when I got to Austin’s house I was horrified to see him on top of my best friend. My own very best friend! I was so shocked that I fainted, and later woke up in the hospital.
What should I do? Because Austin has sent his friends and family to plead with me and everyone is blaming Austin’s deed on the devil, as usual.
I will be very grateful if you can help me out.
Ok readers, you’ve heard Juliana, let’s find some help for her.
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If you have any questions relating to love, life, jobs, etc., send them to me at nkechi@nollywoodgossip.net so that our readers can advise you.
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Really bad, can he ever repent? I hope so though.
Di is just too bad, dat we can't even trust our frds.hummmmmmm,just be prayer ful nd believe in God dat he will bring bak to really person he use to be. In case u are in love wit dont quarrel wit ur frd or d man just let God fight for so dat thing wout get spoilt d more
Tank God it happened b4 the wedding
Wat would u hav done if it was after d wedding
Bro plz its nt easy. U need ur mind n head to Think straight
Simon baby. if you want to drop ur own comment then click on Add A Comment. its just up. under the news. ok
Move on wit life bro.!
Now someone is making sense, Thanks Seyi Stephen Adesina
so bad
pray 4 them
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jst keep prayin to god to hlp u and survive in future
just try to 4give ur fiance if he begs but if he doesn't u 4get
just take heart
Don't be shock my sister. that is men for you. If you can, give him one more chance and disown your friend because she could kill you. forgive him if you can because he is a man and all men are the same. But let him do taste before you carry on with him. Very sad. you are not the only one.
Forgive nd forge ahead my dear, d devil u kn is beta Dan d angel u dont no. So be happy
all the man are not the same
Hw can u explain .
i wonder ooooo. huh
Let get this right. ..Fiance not husband. The man still hv 100% right to change his mind on the marriage but alots of men has caught their wife in side their room. ..Im sick n tired of all this noise the women re making cos they re the worst
lol. really? KEnny clap for urself for supporting him. its like u are the same. what am I even saying? all of u are the same, that is why u didnt see what he just did. lol
lol,, but I agree with you Kenny, cheat is cheat, whether is a man or a woman. As Shan George, asked the other time, no be woman they are cheating with?
can u say all the woman are the same?
no bcos they are.
This is really sad, how can your friend whom u trusted betray you thus, she is not worth the friendship, u better do away with such friend, as for the guy, if u still love him, u have to forgive him and try to forget about the incident becos if u don't forget it, the memory of it will always haunt u and u might end up not trusting him, which is bad becos trust is one of the foundation of a solid marriage, from your story the guy still loves you, it was the guilt of his actions that was making him behave that way, your friend should be blamed for going after your weak guy so to say, some guys can't withstand temptation. forgive him and move on, and don't relent to put him in your prayers too for God to make him a better person, wish u luck.
u have said it all my dear, gud words.
@Aniema, lol weak guy? it takes too to tangle. so please.
Goshh! so sad dear, mennnnnnn r wicked. how r u sure he will not go back to dat your best friend again, if u forgive him? for me I cant go on with him again, cos dat man can kill u, even your so call best friend.
Men! MenE! Men!, wicked heart, why now. hmmmmmmmm na devil den go lie put, why dey no put devil to shame and stop doing bad.
abi ooooooo
Woman b temptation! Den b d cause o.
really. how?
NO GO AREA, IF U LIKE URSELF LEAVE THE GUY OR U LIVE TO REGRET THE REST.
juliana my dear if u want our candid advice then I will offer u two options, (1) forgive him and carry on wit your weddin and dnt give your so called befriend the chance to ruin your life if only u love him so dearly and he has apogised and all meant it.(2) we ladies do make alot of mistakes when it comes to a relationship/marriage, pls stop tellin your men plssssssssssssssssss babe dnt cheat on me oooooo bcos if u do I will not survive it, if u say that u have U HAVE PRACTICALLY GIVEN HIM THE LICENSE TO BREAK THE RECORD BY CHEATIN ON U. why? bcos he will like to kn what u will do when he cheats! the best way to handle them is to leave them and their consciuos if at all the person u are dealin wit has one.
relationship is like a game to men, they lov the beggin, the tears etc. why must we be the one cryin for them for christ sake! left for me I am not ready to be checkin any man's phone, emails, voicemails etc. but I will be prayin for him (1) for him to be usin some protect when he's busy doin it. (2) for him not to end up like the OKADA man one day (3) for him to hav enough cash in his acct so when he dies I can give him a befittin bural or he will be buried wit a mattress.
IF U CAN'T TAKE IT THEN WALK AND DNT LOOK BACK.
hahahaha. he has to have enough money in his account so that when he dies, u can burial him well lol. hahahaha. that is nice oo. good one.
amara nwannem enough is enough! for how long will men continue to disrespect us and must the stupid man sleep wit her bestfriend? his weddin preparation shd be the first tin on his mind and not busy samplin a so called bestfriend.
no respect for his wife to be.
Only God knows what her best friend has been telling him about her that made him to behave like that. she just wants to destroy their wedding. and the man is not even ashame. Friend is small na, sister sleeps with sisters husband to talk of friend. http://www.endtime.com.
the man is just a cheat and can even sleep wit her mother if possible,he can not be trusted. she's luck to find out early if not she would 've been sad and unhappy in that marriage anyway. dis one pass endtime oooooo
mba mba mba,ajulu m aju.na only men dey do women?na vice versa.make una no dey cry always.na only when men do its called heart break but we men are getting it bad from una always.several times man go suffer train a girl for school.after the school u go begin hear different kind of stories.if the guy no ugly,he go be illitrate or not upto the level again.ka m nukwa m ife biko.no be say this one the guy do here good oo but things dey happen .ka Chineke mezie okwu
i agree with u my dear
but also u hardly see a woman cheatin wit her husbands best friend.
amara nwannem i don turn to sex teacher for nollywoodgossip. lol
abi. James na lie.
@Amara, whatever the friend told him is no excuse for his actions. Anyway, even the guy does not have any respect for the wife to be, if not, why the girl friend? I could forgive him if is another person he slept with or if we're already married, but my girlfriend, that is the biggest insult so far.
JENNY DONT TELL ME THAT U HAVENT HEARD WOMEN CHEATING WITH THEIR HUSBAND"S BEST FRIEND.ITS EVEN MORE WHEN THEY DONT HV KIDS EARLY.MAY GOD SEE US THRU
James make I hear word biko.
oge i swear i feel ur talk dear.. you said it all
God bless you my dear! @Jennifer
well said my sister cant even begin to reply anything else to that, but wat kind of best friend would do such an act on her friends wedding..shame on the friend, bad mind is very wrong..but like most things in this world stuff happens. my sister forgive him and your friend but learn how pp stay andl use this as an experience in life and understand one thing in order to move to better things allow forgiveness to flow..its up to you to stay or go just dnt rush into anything if you r not sure, take your time and if he loves you he will wait for you!
lesson for all men thats how you lose a gd thing, and it may fall on some one elses hands. You never know if it was all a big setup in the first place to take your mind off your destiny, or another person wants wats belongs to you. Dnt rush into anything heal first and think abt you and how you really feel abt your partner remember that if you love him take him back its not a new thing its happening every day.
when man r just players they know that they can get awayu with their deeds, so they r allowed to play us women each time its up to us to have sm respect and self worth to knw that we r all worth alot and can do much better, after the healing cums self wroth some times a man needs to miss a good thing in order to learn how else is he going to take life sriously and learn frm his mistakes. maybe she knows that she dose not need him really even if her heart has been broken maybe it was him that needed her to move to better his life and become a man.
THE ADVICE I CAN GIVE YOU IS THAT IF YOU ARE READY TO COPE WITH HIM CHEATING ALL THROUGH YOUR MARRIAGE, BECAUSE HE WILL NOT STOP DOING IT. AND SECONDLY YOU HAVE TO GO AGAIN FOR MEDICAL TEST BEFORE THE MARRIAGE COULD GO ON, AND YOU HAVE TO BE PRAYING TO GOD AT ALL TIMES THAT HE DOSEN'T GIVE YOU WHAT YOU DON'T WANT. AND YOU PRAY ALSO FOR ANY NEGATIVE INFLUENCES THAT MIGHT NOT WANT YOU TO GET MARRIED.
the only advice I will every man and woman before will go into marriage make sure u are spiritually strong. make God the first thing in your life, be prayerful so that devil will be at work, some people enter into relationship for wrong reason. (1) because of how beautiful the guy or the girl may look. 4get that after 20 years that person will not look the same. marriage is all about understanding, sometime love don't work much. don't blame that man much, blame that girl because she knows that is a man to her friend. if the guy was strong spiritually he will pass that temptation. knowing that he is a very critical time of his life.
u mean he shdn't be blamed for sleepin wit his wife to be's friend?who's fault it is for not holdin himself? the woman? sldn't he be busy thinkin abt his weddin?. can u men for once admit ur mistakes.
is true that we have to comments when somethings go wrong but we have to ask this people who post all there problems on site , how did they live their life? most of things that happen into relationship sometimes both men and woman need to be blame, because after leaving i don't care life without committing their relationship into the hand of God or marriage once something happen u start putting the blame on devil, after u find out that the lady and the man don't even go to church, every weekend if u find them from one club or other
Between you and every goal that you wish to achieve, there is a series of obstacles, and the bigger the goal, the bigger the obstacles. Your decision to be, have and do something out of the ordinary entails facing difficulties and challenges that are out of the ordinary as well. Sometimes your greatest asset is simply your ability to stay with it longer than anyone else.
Saints are sinners who kept on going.
meanin?
JULLI NWA BABE MY ADVICE BE SAY IF UNA UNDERSTAND UNA SELF WELLA MAKE UNA CONTINUE BUT IF NA JUST LOVE UNA DEY FEEL FOR EACH OTHER BIKO NNE GBABAKWA CUZ WE NO DEY USE SOMETHING TO CLEAN EAR CLEAN EYE.NA U WEAR SHOE OO AND KNOW WHR E DEY PAIN U PASS.BLESS U OOO.
Juliana I feel your pain dear but let me tell you one thing pray for them both, but I would definitely give her the beating of her life. She would never ever want to sleep with any other person's man again. We all make mistakes and should be forgiven but some people need to be taught a good lesson. Good luck my dear and pray for guidance in this matter. One Love from Florida, USA.
One more tip ladies, handle your men well(u kn wat I mean) keep it EXCITING and FUN and he won't play away bcos some of us african ladies do really lack that, spice up your SEX LIFE with your man and u wont've any need to complain.
and also marry someone u kn and u can call a friend/bestfriend.
Good advice.They shd also begin 2take the initiative or the 1st shot as it were rather than alwayz being at the receiving end which's very boring at times.Afterall what a man can do…..!
Straight talk.marry whom u knw and to call ur friend or best friend.good advice jooo
tank u my darlin
oge go open skul and start teachin ur fellow girls things they must know…. babe u talk well…
tank u dear
How do I say this without sounding obnoxious. I guess it is so easy to be judgemental. If you are with a dog, it doesn't matter how much you spice up your sex life. Unfortunately for some men, one woman is not enough, they have to have more. It is like an addiction. Are you ready to live the rest of your life, wondering who he is f….g now?
Man use that as an excuse some time just to cover their acts..it takes a real man to know a women's worth in the first place..if it was bad romance in the first place then why did you get marriaged to her in the first place? or it was not love in the first place be honest with your partner it go a long way.
Well for me, if you can't deal with him cheating on you then cancel the marriage, because trust me he will do that again.
more than 10times sef
na so e be for 9ja. I blame u for taking her….
is true that we have to comments when somethings go wrong but we have to ask this people who post all there problems on site , how did they live their life? most of things that happen into relationship sometimes both men and woman need to be blame, because after leaving I don't care life without committing their relationship into the hand of God or marriage once something happen u start putting the blame on devil, after u find out that the lady and the man don't even go to church, every weekend if u find them from one club or other.
una don talk am finish.
big deal.As if ladies don't do it.
I feel your pain believe me, but cheating is normal to guys but not doing it with your best friend my advise is that you should give a second chance…….
my dear don't give up, forgive him and marry urs man, tell urs urs friend to look bushhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Just pray 4 God's will to be done in your life, God knws best while it all happen like dis, nd remember u can't question God. Any thing dat happen to u now, jst knw it has happen to some one before, every human hav a trying times your ability to solve urs makes u a winner.Jst ask God 4 D wisdom & strenght to move on nd believe me, He will surely help u because He is our helper.
I will only say, babe, givin him another chance is not bad at all.. and forgive him if u say u love him, fight for your man, don't just give up to a nobody tat do not deserve to be call a friend… I know it hurt for u to see that and it even hurt more with the whole thing surroundin it, but that does not make u the judge over that… love him more cuz that is the best way to forgive and forget about it… good luck to ya.
my dear Juliana, i know it hurt, but my little advice is to for give him and take him back if u really love this man.as of your friend she is not a friend u know.but always ve it mind that men are men low matter what.but they are good ones who don't go on cheating on their ladies.same with women.so my dear forgive him.tans.God bless u.
Men will never change they can not stop cheating, babe 4give him but dat u so called friend run from her.
it simple a warning 2 u, next 1 mayb your blood sister or relation. few weeks 2 urs wedding, Oh my God, d guy is a public servant & need to check out his demon sexual feelings towards ladies.
men never satisfied.
I ve only one word dear Husband scarce so make do with this one….
I will advice you to leave this man and move forward, evn you have to forgive him, but settling down in marriage with him will break only lead you to more troubles '' women'' in the future.
This is a new different story, ehummmmmmmm we men we no go stop to dey at two different thing! well my advice to you is that once a solder always a solder this may not be his first time of doing it, it is cause you caught him on the act, that's while he is blaming it on Devil's work.
What if you catch him the second time who will he blame it on? God or man? we should start to learn our lessons from the little things that see, hear and happen to us, if not, we will be a victim of Scontancy. By then when you start having heart break one after the other then, it becomes a problem to solve.
If you man cannot asst-in's from sex few weeks to his wedding, then after then wedding he will do more then what he did before the wedding, and don't blame men at times you women are the cause of it a-times, why will you bring your friend that you know have some flea than you to visit you f fiance' when you are not up to her stance!
Please my really advice is just to let him go you can still find some one that will fit to his shoes but if fill he is all in all then doing what even you can to win him back, hope this will help you a little thanks.
I really don't get it, a guy cheats on you weeks before your wedding and people are tellin you to forgive him? and get in a marriage based on what? fear of him cheatin on you agian? please! that's what some ladies do, the guy shows you who he really is, you choose to not believe it and let him back into your life then when he does it again because that's who he is and you KNOW and have seen that then you start tallinkin about men being this and that..Girl tell him if he don't respect you now, then you shouldn't be with him because he never will.He will keep doing his thing as long as you LET him and be there to forgive him..you deserve better…Im sure God got a good man who will love, respect and treat you better.WHO WILL NOT DISRESPECT YOU like that(he would if he was meant for you)Good luck sweetie.Do what's best for YOU!
thank GOD dt u've not gotten married 2 him yet, just ve 2 put urself 2gether n journey continue. it may b hard n also take time bt surely, u will smile again.